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Porn? Gambling? TotallyMoney.com discovers the secrets that bind couples together this Valentine’s Day

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In celebration of Valentine’s Day TotallyMoney.com has decided to delve into the world of secrets people keep from their partners (but don’t worry, we’re not judging anyone). Infographic: www.totallymoney.com/valentines-day-secrets/infographic/ Webpage: www.totallymoney.com/valentines-day-secrets/ The research discovered that many Brits feed white lies to their significant others about gambling, ex-partners and even watching porn in order to hold the relationship together. The survey1 found that 22 percent of British men have hidden their porn-viewing habits from their partners, as opposed to eight percent of women who have done the same. What other half-truths do we tell our better halves?

  • Couples have been arguing about money since currency was invented, which might be why 10% of men admitted to avoiding an argument by not telling their significant other about a trip to the bookies. Only three percent of women have done the same.
  • Stuffing your face with food is one of life’s best guilty pleasures. This might be why 25 percent of women don’t tell their partners about their secret snacking. Of course, 12 percent of men also keep their midnight trips to the fridge secret.
  • Men and women both appear to be surprisingly honest when it comes to disclosing your number of ex-partners… but guys are slightly less honest. Only 13 percent of women have lied to their current partner about their number of ex’s, whereas 15 percent of men admitted to altering their number.
  • Women like to know what their partners are up to, even if they don’t ask. Nearly 14 percent of women admitted to snooping on their partners, as opposed to just four percent of men who did the same.
  • One in four women say they have lied to their other halves about how much they weigh.
  • What goes on behind closed doors sometimes has to remain secret. Eight percent of people from the North West have a fetish they keep secret from their partner, in comparison to just three percent of Scots who don’t tell their partner about their kinky side.

Do you yearn for a completely honest and transparent relationship? Maybe you should move to the East Anglia, as 45 percent of people from this region claimed to keep no secrets from their partners. Northern Ireland on the other hand had the highest number of participants who admitted tell white lies from their other halves, with just 22 percent claiming to be completely honest with their partner. The list of things lovebirds from Northern Ireland mostly lie to their partner about included level of education, the time they leave work, how much they earn and even being out of a job. If you’re over 45 however, then you might have to get used to swallowing the bitter truth. The research found secrets in relationships between those aged 45 and older quickly declined. Of course, this doesn’t necessarily mean the spark has died, as the secrets that were found to increase with age were romantic getaways and surprise parties.


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